Category: Let's talk
What are your thoughts on celibacy? What benefits or drawbacks do you see in it? Do you think a man would find it easier than a woman to never marry? I'm interested in hearing what women have to say on this topic. But men can give their opinion too.
It's for people who are to ugly to fuck another human being.
Are you talking about celibacy for life or just until you meet the right person or get married? I'm not sure if it would be easier for men or for women. I've talked to women who have no sex drive, and I have a married friend who swears her husband has no sex drive, and she has learned to get used to celibacy. She doesn't want to cheat so she has just learned to be content without sex.
Hmm never tried it and I can't say that it's a good thing, unless you have a dangerous and highly infectious disease.
For example, I have an aunt who never married and who seems happier than a married woman. Life for her is better than it would be if she were married; she doesn't have to deal with marital problems, or being accountable to her spouse, she even seems healthier than would be a married woman of her age. She had relations at a younger age though but decided not to marry. She's travelled, bought her own house, in other words, she's done everything that a married woman would probably find impractical to do because of the responsibilities of marriage and motherhood. Do you think it's better to set a date in one's late adulthood to live in celibacy, maybe at 40 or something?
I don't think you can really generalize here. Sex is very important to some and not important to others. I think your aunt could be just as happy being on her own whether or not she ever has sexual relations with anyone. Being single and free doesn't have to mean being celibate.
I have a condition that causes me to be celibate. I am not happy about it, but I can't have sex with anyone. So no, I hate it.
Dawnielle
By celibacy do you mean no sex or no relations with another person.
Some people love sex but don't want the additional responsibilities that go with a relationship with another person (i.e. the commitment and selflessness).
Dawnielle
I am sorry about your condition, however, (and I'm probably not telling you anything you don't know) sex is not all it's cracked up to be. It's messy emotionally and physically and it's interpreted so differently by each of us that what might be to one person a one night stand may be a life-long commitment. What all of us are mostly looking for is a relationship with another person that transcends friendship.
Okay seem to be rambling on in my own way, so I'll stop.
Bob
Dawnielle
I had sex once and I loved it. The only problem is that that was over three years ago and I would still love to have it again, but I can't now. The condition popped up after I had sex for the first and last time, but oh my gosh... wow! That one time was amazing for me!! My fiance is a vergin, so he has no idea what it even could be like with me, so in that sence, he's missing less than I am, but if I can't ever get anything done about my problem,I can't have sex, kids, or anything. So for me, it's not just sex, it's also the kid aspect that really hurts. The sex part just compounds it, because I want it so much, but it can't be done. Plus, I've always wanted to adopt one kid and have one, but not even having the choice to create a child when we're ready kills me. Even if Herbie and I get married, the chances of us being able to consemmate our marriage thanks to me having this problem, are getting slimmer by the day. It could take years to fix, or it might not be fixable at all, there's no telling.
Sorry about the long post. I'll shut up now.
Take Care Guys,
Dawnielle